Finding My Zone

I was entertaining a bunch of friends last night. Everyone was coming in and I was catching up with people while still finishing up in the kitchen. Another guest arrived and I was arm deep in the oven. She brought her dish over to me, and before she even said hi, made a request with puppy-dog eyes.

I had a lot going on at that very moment, and I really wanted to vent on her. Here I am with my arms in the oven pulling out a hot dish, and I didn't find it an appropriate time to be making this request. I realized I was not in my zone... It was not the appropriate place to give feedback. And I wasn't even sure what the feedback was... instead of going forward without thinking of the consequences, which is probably what I would have done before taking the iLoveFeedback Course, I paused, thought about it for a moment, and continued pulling my dish out of the oven.

There was no venting involved. I was glad I made this choice, the rest of the night went smoothly and I realized the only reason I wanted to vent because I was stressed for time, not anything she had specifically done. By pausing for a minute and realizing I was not in my zone, I was able to use my newly founded skills and edit myself where appropriate.